Last week I shared my frustration at being unable to ‘do it all’ .
This week I have a new perspective partially because of your kind comments, partially because sometimes life makes you stop and take inventory of your life.
I have had hours and hours this last week while sitting alongside my mother-in-law to really ponder what it is in my life that I have found to be important and those things that are just not that big of a deal. It is interesting when you watch someone at the very end of their lives, as you watch them die, you turn to your life and take inventory.
When my husband’s family has recounted their childhoods, while remembering their mother, it was not the things they had, how clean their house was, or even what a great cook their mother was. No, what they remember and cherish is how she was there for them, how she loved them, her quick smile, and quirky sense of humor.
Sometimes I, because I’m an all or nothing personality, tend to get fixated on things like an organic homegrown diet that I don’t remember to sit down and just enjoy a meal.
I truly believe that growing my own food is a worthy goal but if I find myself sitting down to dinner with my family and instead of being in the moment always thinking of all the things I need to do after dinner then my perspective needs to change.
I need to remember that when I am dying someday my kids won’t remember that they only ate organically grown broccoli from our own garden as much as they will remember that their mom sat with them at meals and interacted with them…really listened to what they had to say.
So I am hoping this summer to get a little change in my perspective…I’m not giving up on some of my goals and plans especially those that involve simplifying my life…but I’m going to put them in the ‘big picture’. I’m going to focus more on those things that are as simple as spending time with my family.
For at the end of our lives are we really going to remember anything else?
So stay tuned throughout this summer as I’m going to be starting a series on how I am going to go about simplifying my life. How I am going to re-prioritize and learn to focus more on those things that are important and less on the other stuff!
First step for me…getting rid of the clutter. It is driving me crazy and distracting me from things more important. See you next week when I will share my plan for getting rid of all the ‘stuff’ that I don’t want or need!